My daughter and I can’t stop snapping at each other. Help!

The question:   My daughter and I are close, but we can’t seem to communicate well. She’s in her 30s, but as long as I can remember we lose our temper or snap at each other over the smallest or biggest things. This starts to get embarrassing when we’re among family or friends and can’t [...]

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How do I choose between the two men I’m dating?

The question:   I am newly single and the mother of a young child after having been married for seven years. Currently, I’m dating two very different men. One is passionate, mysterious, commanding and charismatic while the other is tender, compassionate, communicative and emotionally connected. However, I don’t always feel supported by the first man [...]

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Should I let the woman I love back in my life? (She’s left twice)

The question:   I’ve known a woman for seven years now. For the first three years we were romantically involved in an on-again/off-again relationship. She was the one who determined the on/off. I was deeply in love with her, but she was not with me. She married another man, but after six months contacted me, [...]

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I’m not sure my boyfriend and I are the right fit. Am I being a snob?

The question:   I love my boyfriend very much, he is warm, loving and giving. However, when I imagine my life five years from now I have a hard time seeing him in it. We come from different academic backgrounds – I have a B.A. and a college certificate, he never finished college. I want [...]

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Our difficult neighbours could force us out of the neighbourhood. What should we do?

The question:   My family is dealing with very difficult neighbours. It’s causing us so much stress that we are considering moving from our great neighbourhood to a nearby community. At the same time, my wife and I have anxiety over uprooting our young children. I’m tormented over what will be best for our family [...]

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Is it harmful to go on and off medications for my mood?

The question:   I only want to take medication during more difficult or stressful moments in my life. Is it harmful to go on and off medication for my mood depending on how I’m feeling?   The answer:   It really depends. It depends on what medications you are taking; on their intended usage; on [...]

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My friend thinks her husband is cheating. I agree, but do I say so?

The question:   My friend thinks her husband is cheating on her. They have been married for six years and have a child. From what she’s told me about their relationship, it seems like all the signs are pointing to infidelity: things have gone downhill fast and there is no intimacy. She’s asked me what [...]

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How do I stop being a people pleaser?

The question:   I have a really hard time saying no to people but realize it’s time to be more assertive. Are there specific strategies to help me do this?   The answer:   Assertiveness – being able to respectfully communicate your ideas, feelings and needs, while at the same time balancing the needs of [...]

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Is dating my co-worker a good idea?

The question:   Should I date my co-worker and mix business with pleasure? I take my work seriously but I’m torn because I don’t want to pass up the opportunity of meeting someone great either. Office romances seem to work for some, but could I be complicating matters?   The answer:   Ah, the office [...]

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My friends are getting divorced. I don’t want to choose sides. Help!

The question:   My friends are getting a divorce and I’m afraid I’ll be caught in the middle. Even though I didn’t initially know my girlfriend’s soon-to-be ex-husband, I have formed a close relationship with him during their relationship. Now, I’m worried my girlfriend will expect me to support her fully through this. How do [...]

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My teen is scared to start high school without her friends

The question:   We recently moved to a new neighbourhood, which means my daughter will be starting Grade 9 without the comfort of having her friends there too. She’s terrified of starting high school without familiar faces and as much as I try to reassure her that she will make new friends she is still [...]

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Are self-help books useful or a waste of my time?

The question:   I’m curious about therapy, but not ready to commit to seeing someone on a regular basis. My aunt keeps encouraging me to read different self-help books. I assume it will be very difficult to follow through on all the advice in these books. Are they useful or a waste of my time? [...]

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I can’t take a joke. How do I control my sensitivity?

The question:   I’ve always been a sensitive and emotional person. While I don’t think it’s a negative thing, I do find that I take a lot of comments seriously and personally. Often people may be joking, but somehow I interpret their statements negatively. How can I embrace my sensitivity without going overboard?   The [...]

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My current partner hates when I talk about my late husband. Help!

The question:   I lost my husband eight years ago unexpectedly after he took his life. We were married for 30 years and together for 34. I thought we had a wonderful marriage together, others may not agree. After 2 1/2 years, I remarried a man that has a totally opposite personality from the first. [...]

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My in-laws live next door. Is it time for us to move?

The question:   I’m in my late 20s and have been married for close to two years. About 6 months ago, my in-laws decided to downsize and bought a townhouse on our street. While I respect and care for my husband’s family, I don’t appreciate living so close to his parents. I don’t feel like [...]

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My husband no longer wants children. Should I file for divorce?

The question:   When we got married my husband said he wanted to have kids. Now, several years into our marriage he has decided that kids are not part of his future. I still desperately want to have children. Knowing that there isn’t much to compromise on this, what should I do? Do I wait [...]

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I no longer love my career. Should I go back to school?

The question:   I’m 29 and have a good career. But for the past few years I have not felt as passionate about my work as I used to. I like the idea of embarking on a new career and have at times looked at going back to school. While I know it’s important to [...]

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My girlfriend wants to meet my children. When is the right time?

  The question:   I’ve been divorced for a few years and have two children, 10 and 8. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about a year and half. I want to introduce my children to her, but I’m unsure if it’s too soon. My girlfriend wants to meet them as well and is very [...]

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I’ve lost family to cancer and fear I’m next. How do I stop worrying?

The question:   I recently have had a string of deaths in the family, all from cancer. Now I stress out about every little bump on my body. I’ve been to the doctors, who say I’m fine, but I’m still anxious all the time. What can I do to not feel crazy?   The answer: [...]

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We don’t want children. How do I convince my parents the choice is ours?

The question:   I don’t want children, but this upsets my family and in particular my parents who are looking forward to having grandchildren. How do I get them to understand once and for all that my husband and I are content in our lives and don’t want kids?   The answer:   Statistics from [...]

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How do I convince my son to take a break from his girlfriend?

The question:   My 22-year-old son is dating a girl who his highly dependent on him. He struggles on and off with a marijuana addiction and is trying to get back on his feet. She is seeking therapy for a variety of reasons herself. How do I persuade them that it’s healthier to take some [...]

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