My mother died last Christmas. How do I even celebrate this year?

The question:   My family loves the holidays. But last year, my mother passed away around this time, which was an incredibly sad time for everyone. I took it especially hard. Now that it’s a year later, there’s a weird feeling in the air, for me at least, that the holidays won’t be the same […]

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Christmas is more fun with my fiancé’s family. What do I tell mine?

The question: I’m engaged to someone who I only met a year ago and I’m ashamed to admit this: I loved spending last Christmas with his family more than I ever liked it with mine. My family doesn’t fight, argue or hate each other; I just don’t think we are very festive. His family loves […]

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My ex-wife has the kids for Christmas this year. What do I do?

The question:   I divorced my wife earlier this year. We had been married nine years and have two young children, but it just wasn’t working out. We agreed she gets to have the children this Christmas. But there’s honestly nothing I loved more than Christmas morning with my children. I’m not looking forward to […]

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My troubled son fights with my new wife. What do I do?

The question:   For the last year my son has been living with me and my current wife. He was taken away from his biological mother’s home because of physical and emotional abuse. Now my son and my wife have power struggles. Anything is a fight, even simple things like doing his chores. And it […]

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We’re both divorced. Now why won’t he marry me?

The question:   My common-law partner and I have both had previous marriages. I’ve always wanted to marry again, but he refuses to even speak about the possibility. He pulls away emotionally and physically each time I’ve asked. Why can’t he get over the past and start fresh with me? I’m ready to be a […]

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My partner committed suicide. How do I move on?

The question:   Almost three years ago my partner committed suicide. He suffered from depression. We were only dating for a year, but I find his death still gets to me. It’s especially difficult now for me to date people. I used to be a very patient, happy, joking person. Since it happened, I feel […]

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How can I be sure my friend is in a happy relationship?

The question:   There’s a couple who are both friends of mine, but they want very different things. As a woman, I understand my female friend’s desire for marriage, kids and the house in the suburbs. He’s not that into it, but follows along. I’m concerned he’ll end up miserable in a life he didn’t […]

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Should I stay with my girlfriend, or sow my wild oats first?

The question:   I’m a guy who loves his girlfriend, but that doesn’t mean I’m not attracted to other women. I’m in my 20s and making good money. Is it a bad idea to sow my wild oats now, before I’m fully committed?   The answer:   Umm … the fact that you are asking […]

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How do I stop being the family doormat?

The question:   My parents have never emotionally supported me and see me as a disappointment because I am divorced, yet I feel a responsibility to maintain regular contact and be there to help them with whatever they need (attending medical appointments, booking their travel). I’m 44 years old, live my life according to good […]

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My friend just had a baby and ignores me now. What do I do?

The question:   My friend just had her first baby. I told her to call if she needs anything, but we haven’t been in touch much lately. Should I keep approaching her in case she really does need help, or give her some space and trust she’ll contact me when the time is right? I […]

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I’m pretty sure my friend is gay… how do I ask him?

The question:   There’s a group of us who hang out, and we are pretty sure that one of our friends is gay. We don’t care, we just wish he wouldn’t hide it if that’s the case. Should we ask him outright?   The answer:   Coming out is a deeply personal process that can […]

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I said “yes” when I should have said “no”. What do I do?

The question:   I told a friend about a job I was applying for. The opportunity excited her, and she asked if she could apply too. I said okay, but I’m really ticked now and feel like I can’t trust her. Can our friendship be salvaged?   The answer:   Let me get this straight: […]

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Keep it up: 6 easy steps to keep you fitness-focused

The question:   Every week I start fresh and aim to eat well, exercise, get rest, all the good stuff. By Thursdays, my plan is right off the rails. How do I commit to bettering myself and staying on track?   The answer:   There are only a handful of things in life that are […]

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I want my boomerang son to move out, but my husband wants him to stay

The question:   My son recently moved back home into the basement – with his girlfriend. I want him to be on his own two feet, but my spouse won’t take a stand. What should I do?   The answer:   You were a walking zombie during the sleepless, colicky nights. With some creative disaster-proofing, […]

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Summer’s over – how do I get motivated to work again?

The question:   I’m finally back at work after taking most of the summer off – I took relaxing very literally. But now reality is setting in at the office and I’m completely unmotivated to do real work. How can I get myself back on track after such a long break?   The answer:   […]

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How do I get my control freak friend to dial it back?

The question:   I have a friend who is a bit of a control freak. Whenever we’re making plans, she needs to organize. How do I get her to loosen her grip and allow other people to have input and make decisions?   The answer:   None of us have the power to make anyone […]

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My friend’s guy hit on me – and I may be interested. What should I do?

The question:   My friend’s boyfriend came on to me. She has no idea. I shut him down, but I think I’m hot for him too. What should I do?   The answer:   Stop and ask yourself one question: If the roles were reversed and you were in your friend’s shoes, what you would […]

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I love my sister but can’t stand her husband. What should I do?

The question:   I love my sister and her kids but can’t stand being around her husband, so I don’t see them as often as I’d like. Should I broach the subject with her or just bite my tongue?   The answer:   Ahhh, family members and the outlaws – two of the biggest sources […]

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He eats meat, I don’t – do we have a future together?

The question:   I’m a vegetarian but my boyfriend is an avowed meat eater. The complications are both practical and philosophical. Is there a future for us?   The answer:   Every couple is faced to some degree with fundamental differences in terms of beliefs and values. Successful couples are able to respectfully negotiate, comprise […]

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My friend borrowed a bundle from me – how do I get him to pay it back?

The question:   I have a friend who I’ve known almost my whole life. A while ago, he asked me to wire him money because he “lost his wallet” – and not a small amount. Then he dropped out of sight. It turns out his life was nosediving because of alcohol and he wound up […]

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How do I deal with deep travel anxiety?

The question: I have bad travel anxiety. I get extremely worked up a few days before a trip. It’s not fear of flying, but something deeper. How can I deal with it?   The answer: Travel-related anxiety is one of the most common fears. A fair proportion (10 to 15 per cent) of air travellers […]

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