I do want kids – but not just yet. How do I prepare to be a mom?

The question:   I’m in my early 30s and I do want kids – eventually, just not now. I just don’t feel ready, yet as a woman I know the clock’s ticking. How do I prepare myself for what I imagine will be a sea of change in my life?   The answer:   The […]

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My husband takes solo vacations – am I wrong to resent it?

The question:   My husband takes vacations on his own. He does also go on holidays with my daughter and me, but I’m feeling a little resentful of his solo time off. Am I wrong to feel that way?   The answer:   There is a lot to be said for the value and importance […]

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She wants kids, I’m old enough to be her dad – can this relationship work?

The question:   I’m dating a woman who’s 20 years my junior. I’m into her, but she wants children, and that’s the last thing on my radar. What should I do?   The answer:   May-December relationships can certainly work, but they are not without their challenges. Relationships, even in the best of circumstances, are […]

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Are relationship “agreements” healthy, or just weird?

The question:   I’m hearing more and more about relationship agreements – like the one between Facebook’s Mark Zuckerberg and his wife – in which partners commit to certain behaviours in a formal document. Do you think this is healthy for a relationship or is it just weird?   The answer:   Virtually every type […]

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My friend always wants to bring her dog along – can I say no?

The question:   My friend treats her dog more like a child than a pet. When I invite her over, she’s always angling to bring the dog along. I don’t always want it around, and she doesn’t stay behind to clean up the dog hair – how do I say no?   The answer:   […]

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How do I deal with my widowed father’s new partner?

The question:   My mother passed away a few years ago. Now my father’s dating. I’m very happy for him, but I’m not sure how to behave. I feel silly as I’m an adult. Do we act like we’re all one family, or is it okay to keep some distance?   The answer:   Dealing […]

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How do I rein in my obsessive thoughts?

The question:   I find that when something’s bothering me (such as something my brother-in-law says or slacker behaviour by a co-worker) I get really fixated on it and keep turning it over and over in my head. How do I move my mind off it and stop obsessing?   The answer:   Spending more […]

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Is it normal to feel so low after giving birth?

The question:   I recently had my second child – shouldn’t this be a happy time for a mother? But I feel lost. It’s like I’m not living my own life any more. Is that normal? What should I do?   The answer:   Having a baby can be one of the happiest moments in […]

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Help – I think my friend has a gambling problem

The question:   I think a friend has a gambling problem. It’s not like he’s playing video terminals every night, but he seems to treat a trip to the casino more as a way to supplement his income than as a fun time out. Am I overreacting or does he need help?   The answer: […]

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He got the promotion I wanted. How do I handle it?

The question:   My colleague received a promotion I thought I should have gotten. Frankly, I’m not impressed with his “work ethic,” but he’s good at playing office politics. How can I get over my disappointment and act civilly around him when I feel he’s dogging it?   The answer:   Actual or perceived unfairness […]

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My friend had a psychotic episode – do I reach out or step back?

The question:   A friend of mine has gone through what I think is a psychotic episode. Her family is getting her help, but she’s months away from a full diagnosis. How should I proceed? Reach out to her, or stand back and let her get the help she needs before making contact?   The […]

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How do I deal with my sore loser sister?

The question:   My sister is a sore loser. Tennis, Scrabble, poker – any “game” brings out her competitive streak, and she’s no fun to be around. How should I deal with it?   The answer:   Dealing with anyone who is a sore loser can suck the fun out of playing a game altogether. […]

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He won’t end his affair – what can my friend do?

The question:   I have a friend who’s deeply conflicted. She’s found out her partner’s been having an affair – and continued to do so even after she found out. He says it’s a short term thing, but obviously isn’t willing to put a stop to it just yet. She has left him a few […]

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OWN solidifies summer schedule

In addition to launching six new series, Winfrey will profile the “How I Met Your Mother” start during a visit with his family, where she’ll meet his fraternal twin children. The Oprah Winfrey Network announced its official summer lineup on Friday, including six new series and new episodes of Oprah’s Next Chapter and Our America […]

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My daughter wants to take a year off before university – what should I do?

The question:   My daughter gets excellent grades and wants to be a doctor. She’s been accepted for pre-med at several schools with full scholarship. But now she’s talking about taking a year off before university. I think she’s scared that things won’t be as easy for her as in high school, but I’m worried […]

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Everyone seems more outgoing – how can I meet people?

The question:   I have a hard time meeting new people. Everyone else seems so outgoing, posting personal items on Facebook and chatting up strangers in bars. How do get myself out there and noticed?   The answer:   Meeting new people can be a challenge at the best of times, and it just gets […]

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How do I curb my sharp tongue with my spouse?

The question:   I can’t control my tongue with my spouse. I’ve got a quick temper, and sometimes I’ll just snap and say hurtful things I don’t really mean. How can I get this under control?   The answer:   Start by memorizing this: Can’t lives on won’t street. The word “can’t” must be reserved […]

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Everything makes me cry – is that weird?

The question: Everything makes me cry: corny movies, sad books, even greeting cards. Am I weird?   The answer: Last time I checked, “weird” was not a category in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders … so being overly emotional is likely not a symptom of that.   But in all seriousness, being […]

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How do I make my work nightmares stop?

The question:   I keep having work dreams. Or should I say, nightmares. How can I make them stop?   The answer:   Ah, the dreaded workmare. Unfortunately, I have no magic wand to make work-related nightmares stop. The key is to first understand what factors contribute to the types of dreams we all have, […]

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Can an affair ever help a marriage?

The question:   I’m considering an affair. Ethics aside, have you ever encountered situations in which it helped a marriage?   The answer:   My simple answer to your question is no.   Relationships come in all different shapes and sizes, and we often see atypical relationship arrangements in our society (swinging, open relationships and […]

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Is retail therapy a good thing?

The question:   When is retail therapy unhealthy?   The answer:   “Retail therapy” is a tongue-in-cheek term we tend to use (especially us women) to refer to shopping behaviour that has the primary aim of improving our emotional state. Getting something new that we like can naturally make us feel good – particularly when […]

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